Wednesday, November 14, 2012

I'm coming out (so you better get this party started)

This months blog hop topic is coming out of the pole closet. Being new
to the pole community my experience on this topic is limited but
overall mostly positive.

When I first went to the pole studio it wasn't for a pole class. It
was hula hoop that brought me in the door and I must admit it was
rather reluctantly. My expectations of a pole studio included a bunch
of Barbie doll shaped bitchy bleached blondes. That couldn't have been
further from the truth. There were women of all ages, shapes and
sizes. All friendly, confident and super supportive of each other.

A community.

And beyond my wildest expectations, I fit in there. In fact, I feel
like I've known these girls forever, and now I can't imagine life
without them.

Of Course I feel ridiculous for my prior stereotyping. But this is the
stigma society has placed on this sport, leaving it up to those of us
who love it to change this way of thinking.

How have reactions to my new love been? Well, there's my husband. He
was the one who pushed me to take a pole class in the first place.
"You'll never know if you like it if you don't try". Too true. (He
held the spot light at the opening party. Best job ever)

My family. My mom is totally supportive and came to the DL grand
opening. As did my two sisters. One of whom just finished her first
pole class and the other wants to sign up as soon as she has some
money. My dad laughs at my shenanigans but would be happy for me if I
finally found my way out of corporate America.

Then there are my friends. So far all have been supportive. Some said
"Uummmm, good for you but that's not for me." Others have said "I wanna
take a class with you!"

So, after reading some of the other coming out stories, some involving
tears, I believe I am blessed with amazing family and friends. I only
hope that it continues this way as I'm only a few months in. Either
way, it's all good now. I have the pole dance community to lean on and
gain strength from. I am thankful for all of you.

If you are interested in this topic check out some great reads here:

http://www.linkytools.com/wordpress_list.aspx?id=170753&type=basic 

Much love!
Emmalyne

Monday, November 12, 2012

Grand Re-opening!

This weekend was DL's grand re-opening celebration and the turnout couldn't have been better! I was behind the desk most of the night welcoming guests, selling raffle tickets and serving drinks. I did get to sneak a peak at a few of the performances though and they were amazing!

There was Mercedes demonstrating color guard (which will be offered at the studio starting next month) then Lauren gave a high energy black light Zumba demo. I'm not sure hips are supposed to move that fast? Lauren is incredible. Following that Maggie wowed the crowd with a LED hoop performance. I saw jaws drop in the crowed and heard more than one murmur of "I didn't know a hoop could do that!"

The main act was a pole dance routine with Lisa and her instructors. Their costumes were to die for, Lisa in her white ring leader outfit couldn't have looked more perfect. All the girls really nailed their performance, they were so much fun to watch. The star of the show was definitely Maggie. She tricked out all night above the crowds awestruck expressions on both pole and silks.

Everyone who came had a great time. I'm more inspired than ever to get up on that pole! Hopefully a few views of what pole is all about were changed that night. Every one should experience the confidence that finally perfecting that pole move brings!

Thursday, November 1, 2012

A.K.A. - My Pole Persona

I LOVE Halloween. Always have. Here in New England we have the beautiful Autumn colors and and that tantalizing fragrance of fallen leaves. My mom always went over the top and made Halloween extra special with handmade costumes and the best Halloween parties for all my friends. Our house was always one of the most decorated in the neighborhood. I'm talking fog machines and scary music, a graveyard in the front yard and family members dressed up waiting to scare kids as they come up the walkway. Heaven.

The best part is on this day it is socially acceptable to "dress up". Being able to say "I'm not Beth, I'm Cleopatra, Queen of the Nile!" It's the one day a year you can be whoever, or whatever you desire. "I'm gonna wear a vampire cape, fangs and a big pink tutu to work today and that's ok! It's Halloween!"

I love the idea of changing your whole persona. Having multiple yous. Over this Halloween season I've been thinking a lot about creating a "pole persona". A lot of people use them for various reasons. When I'm dancing or doing tricks I transform from the mom of two who sits on the sidelines at soccer games and works on a computer in a cubicle all day long into the "Flying Bambino!" of my childhood dreams. So I have decided to create a pole alias.

I went through a lot of options but kept coming back to the same name. Emmalyne Lilly. Emmalyne is a name I heard once in a novel and immediately fell in love. I can't exactly explain why, it just struck me as old worldly and elegant. Lilies were the main flower in my wedding bouquet and the one flower I raise (and baby) in my back yard.

So, if you see Emmalyne on the pole blogs say hello! I would love to hear the stories of where everyone else got their pole names!

Halloween love,
Emmalyne (!!)


Update 1/4/2013:
Soooo, I'm not feeling it anymore. I gave it a try and I love that name but I want my real name to better fit with my pole persona so I can use them interchangeably. I decided I will go with Elysabeth. This may be less confusing to all (especially me) as I start to blog more and become more involved with the pole community.

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/elysabeth.lilly
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ElysabethLilly
Blog: www.poleside.com & http://poleproject.blogspot.com/

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